Kristy,
As we welcome the new year, let’s focus on something truly transformative: the power of small, intentional acts of love. These seemingly simple gestures—a gentle touch, a moment of eye contact, or a few minutes of undivided attention—can create a profound sense of trust and connection with your child.
It's not grand gestures or perfection that strengthen relationships; it’s the consistent, loving actions that make your child feel safe, valued, and understood. Here are five ways to incorporate these acts into your daily life and build deeper connections with your child:
1. Start the Day with a Warm Greeting
Whether it’s a hug, a soft “good morning,” or a cheerful smile, how you greet your child each day sets the tone for their emotional state. This small ritual communicates love and reassurance.
2. Engage in Eye-Level Conversations
Kneel or sit so you’re at your child’s eye level when they talk to you. Look them in the eyes and actively listen to what they have to say. This conveys that their words matter and that you are fully present.
3. Create a Daily Connection Routine
Carve out time for one-on-one moments, even if it’s just 10 minutes. Read a book together, share stories from the day, or simply sit quietly. This consistency reassures your child of your unwavering presence.
4. Use Physical Affection to Reassure
A pat on the back, a hand squeeze, or a gentle hug can ground your child in moments of stress or joy. Physical touch is a powerful way to communicate love and care, especially when words might fall short.
5. Express Gratitude for Their Presence
Make it a habit to tell your child what you appreciate about them. Whether it’s their laugh, their creativity, or their resilience, these affirmations help them feel seen and valued.
6. Be Mindful of Small Opportunities for Connection
When you’re cooking, folding laundry, or doing other tasks, invite your child to join. These shared activities, no matter how mundane, create opportunities for bonding and conversation.
7. End the Day with Love
Before bed, take a moment to reflect together. Ask them what the best part of their day was, what they’re looking forward to, or simply offer a goodnight hug and kiss. These moments help them end the day feeling secure and cherished.
As you incorporate these small, intentional acts of love into your daily routine, you’ll notice how they weave a stronger fabric of trust, safety, and connection within your family. Each moment may seem small, but together, they create a lifetime of love.
Here’s to a year of meaningful connections and moments that matter.
Choose love,
Bryan Post
P.S. Check out this video from a gathering I was teaching at where I walked through some ‘fear to love’ methods for connecting with your kids through small acts of connection and understanding… you’ll notice some of what I’m talking about in the video connects to the tips above. Click HERE to watch it now.
